Saying the amends to a tombstone is nothing like saying them in person. Up close and personal, you can read in the other person’s eyes you really mean what you say. You are following through to amend your ways. They see what you see – the amend-making is more than an apology – you are creating a new beginning.
However, if the beloved is deceased, find a safe person to receive your amends. Read in their eyes, what they read in yours. Only Forgiveness and Love and Eye See You.
One important and especially positive way for turning our lives around comes when we realize we don’t need to wait until Friday, New Year’s, or next week to begin that turn. The big journey begins with small steps that include lots of turns along the way.
For years I kept hidden the very topics we share daily. A huge surprise to hear the men and women share their experience, strength, and hope on the topics I was sure “would go to the grave with me.” With the passing of time and “constant contact with others,” not only was I given answers to my inner dilemmas, I was also shown the way through your example. One such example came when I was newly sober – and not going to meetings. I was resentful at my homegroup. I did not want to do the...
“Happy, Joyous, and Free.” As a newcomer to A. A., when I first heard we were to be “Happy, Joyous, and Free” I thought, “Sheesh! What an order! I can’t go through with it.” “Restless, Irritable, and Discontent” were far more familiar.